In today’s changing world, there is no one right way to be in a relationship. In my book, The New Monogamy, couples can create a new type of agreement where they can change their implicit assumptions around their monogamy to … Read More
There are three simple steps that all couples who survive an affair move through to feel better. Can you recover after your partner has an affair? There are three simple steps that all couples who survive an affair move through … Read More
The dilemmas around sexuality in our culture abound. We often repress our true desires, confused about our fantasies, guilt and shame forcing us to detach them from our relationships and using the internet to avoid intimacy. But some couples today … Read More
Working with couples, I often see the struggle to recover from betrayal and infidelity. It can be difficult to imagine how a relationship could survive an affair. Sometimes the best path for everyone involved is an intentional and compassionate divorce. … Read More
This study, “Tell Me About A Time When I was Awesome,” is from a ‘Best Self Study’ at Harvard Business School, and indicates that performance improves when we are told we are good at something. It is called ‘best self … Read More
Many view divorce, or the ending of a relationship, as a failure. I like to reframe that thinking into a changing of the relationship. You will always have a relationship to that person, as long as your memory of your … Read More
I did an Imago Think Tank interview last week with John Bradshaw – one of my heroes. If you have ever heard the term “inner child” or “dysfunctional family” then you are probably quoting John Bradshaw’s work. His contribution to … Read More
TIME Magazine posed this important question to content creators and thought leaders for yesterday’s Question Everything issue. It’s an important conversation the world needs to have, but particularly amongst couples therapists. We have a unique opportunity to guide couples in … Read More
If you’re in a relationship, you’ve likely made promises to stay faithful to one another. However, infidelity occurs in over half of all marriages. Some may think it goes far beyond getting physical with another person, and can be as … Read More
Following the hacking of Ashley Madison, the famed dating site for cheaters, Katherine Rosman, journalist for The New York Times, asks, Is There Such a Thing as ‘Ethical Cheating’? In her article she reviews OpenMinded.com, a new site for married people … Read More