For a Healthy Relationship, Tell Me How I was Awesome

This study, “Tell Me About A Time When I was Awesome,” is from a ‘Best Self Study’ at Harvard Business School, and indicates that performance improves when we are told we are good at something. It is called ‘best self activation.’ Reminds me of what we do in Imago Relationship Therapy, when we work on “appreciations” – a form of healing that is done in dialogue (and for homework) in couple’s therapy. We don’t need a Harvard study to confirm that you always get more of what you appreciate. But good for them for proving it. Nice job, Harvard.

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  1. Principleskills
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    Informative post 🙂

  2. […] For more information on appreciations and Imago Relationship Therapy, check out Wednesday’s blog: For a Healthy Relationship, Tell Me How I was Awesome […]

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