How to Avoid an Affair
Question from a reader: “So how do I avoid cheating on my husband? I love him, but I’m bored. And there’s this guy at work. Well, he’s not anyone I would leave my husband for. I mean we have kids, … Read More
Should we have a “new monogamy” and swing?
From a reader: So what you are saying is that the New Monogamy means that I should tell my husband that we should start an open marriage? He really wants to go to a swingers club but I dont want … Read More
The New Monogamy in this month’s Psychotherapy Networker
The New Monogamy by Tammy Nelson How Far Should We Go? If there’s anything fundamental to the meaning of marriage in Western society, it’s monogamy. In fact, monogamy may be the only thing that remains essential to most people’s idea … Read More
Phases of Recovery from Affairs
There are phases to the recovery of infidelity; it doesnt happen all at once – but the good news is that it can happen – if you want to recover. Sometimes an affair means its time to end the relationship. … Read More
Infidelity Recovery
Ok, can you really get over it? She sat in my office, looking crestfallen. Her husband had an affair, and she was devastated, she said. He saw her for a year, apparently, and they slept together once a week. I … Read More
Packin’ Em In – In Pittsburgh
I just got back from the Sex Therapy conference. I talked about Erotic Recovery After Infidelity. What a great crowd. Aside from all the intellectual stimulation and the great connections I made, I had an outstanding experience in the room … Read More
Eliot Spitzer’s Wife Says His Affair With a Prostitute Was Her ‘Failing’
Is it Your Partner’s Fault if You Have Sex with a Prostitute? (SOURCE: www.Lemondrop.com June 6, 2010) Lemondrop said, “When it comes to infidelity, usually there’s one thing everybody can agree on: It’s the other woman’s fault. But the case of … Read More
What does erotic recovery after infidelity look like?
If my partner has had an affair how do I forgive them? And should I? This is what I heard from a woman who came to me visibly shaken by her partner’s infidelity, after 20 years of solid marriage. She … Read More
sex addiction – is it real?
Is there such a thing? What is it? How do you recognize it? How do you treat it? Hypersexual behaviors like addiction to porn, infidelity, exhibitionism, intrusive sexual behaviors and other compulsive sexual problems effect spouses and partners … Read More
Polarities in Israel
Somehow my life will never be the same after teaching here for two days – in Israel. Most of every moment I feel I have had some awakening – some new understanding about the polarities of relationships – and I … Read More