Have you lost interest in sex? Do you miss the energy you used to have for sensuality, intimacy or your partner?
There are many things that can be done if you want to increase your sexual desire.
First, understand why low sex drive happens. It can be caused by stress, relationship difficulties, medication side effects, or your diet. A lot of the causes of low libido can be changed, though sometimes you may need outside assistance.
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Before you make changes, however, explore a conversation with your partner about what gives you pleasure and how you can add more pleasurable activities into your life.
What You Can Do to Increase Your Sexual Desire
You have control over the amount of sleep you get (including taking a sleep aid), the amount of water you drink, the amount of exercise you do, the type of food you eat, and the amount of stress-relieving activities you engage in.
So try changing one thing on this list and see if your desire increases.
After you have changed at least one of the things on this list, explore self- pleasure as a way to explore your own needs and then communicate these needs directly to your partner.
If these things don’t work, you may need a doctor’s assistance to figure out what’s happening with your desire issues. Sometimes thyroid issues, prescription medications, birth control, and hormone deficiencies can be evaluated as possible causes for your low sex drive.
However, other things, such as depression, low self-esteem, and lack of satisfaction during sex can be worked on with a therapist.
Therapy Can Address Some Low Sex Drive Issues
In my couples therapy sessions, I work with individuals and couples to figure out what may be causing low sexual desire and find ways to overcome sexual desire mismatch between partners.
Low sexual desire is a common problem but has a variety of solutions. The individual with low desire or the couple with a desire discrepancy can work in therapy on change. It takes work and patience, and a good sex and couples therapist can guide you through the process of sexual re-connection.
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