Can we discover what we want and don’t want in our monogamy agreement through others’ experiences? Some learn by doing, some learn by watching others. If you’re in the 2nd group and in the habit of negotiating your monogamy agreement … Read More
There is more to healing and being whole than showing up in therapy once a week or taking a medication for your depression. I know, I may be putting myself out of business when I say that. A therapist depends … Read More
When you are frustrated with your partner, communicating your feelings may be a good way to get it out. But sometimes we are afraid to talk to our partner about our needs. Discussing an unmet need or a problem with … Read More
At home, we don’t appreciate—we expect! We say things like, “If you really love me, you would ______.” Expectations delivered in a bartering mode. Where is the appreciation for our loved ones? Do you expect the garbage to go out … Read More
Many couples who come see me have experienced some betrayal in their relationship – a physical, emotional, or even financial betrayal can destroy the trust in the relationship, in each other. But trust is not about learning to trust your … Read More
This story about a happy polyamorous family from Oakland, CA shows how any family can create success when they work on communication and connection, and a monogamy agreement that works for them. Polyamorous man’s two wives give birth within 30 … Read More
Most parents will say they want a better life for their kids than they have had. Parents are a child’s first and most important role model – but how can we model a healthy relationship for our children when we … Read More
As spring here in the Northeast of the U.S. fast approaches, I get so excited to see the trees and flowers come back to life. Even though it happens every year, somehow I am surprised every Spring. It is such … Read More
Marriage today faces some incredible challenges, possibly more than ever before in history. Modern couples don’t just struggle with basic communication, sex and parenting issues. Now couples face the everyday roommate problems of living together PLUS the difficulties of the … Read More
Much of my work with couples is in the effort to save their marriage following infidelity, loss of sexual desire, or some other damage to intimacy. Sometimes, saving a marriage isn’t the best answer for one or both of the … Read More