Recently in the Wall Street Journal, Elizabeth Bernstein wrote an interesting piece about relationships. Her article talked about what really happens in the day-to-day life of a married typical couple and the frustrations that lead to what we commonly call “nagging. Titled, “Meet the Marriage Killer,” her report suggested that both partners in a relationship get tired of the vicious cycle of asking for what they want, being ignored and getting angry and having to ask again. Nagging more doesn’t help and withdrawing from each other makes the situation worse. Being told what to do makes both partners then feel like children. Funny, I just had a session today with a couple who were complaining about the same thing. I have been a couples therapist for many years, and I see many of them complain every day in my office about what they describe as nagging behaviors that are killing the love they once felt for each other.
For the complete article go the the Huffington Post
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tammy-nelson-phd/nagging-is-it-killing-you_b_1245574.html
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