Want to start being more passionate tonight? If you want to make great sex a priority in your relationship then you can start right now. Making it hot starts in your head. Don’t blame anyone or anything for a lack of passion in the bedroom. It’s not your partner’s fault that you are not turning yourself on. Dr Gina Ogden, author of Return of Desire, says to ask yourself these questions:
What do I do to turn myself on?
What do I do to turn myself off?
Take responsibility for making your love life hot and exciting. Why think about going somewhere else when you and your partner can be perfectly satisfied right at home?
Sex is an important part of a relationship. It’s the one difference between a romantic relationship and a roommate. Keep the erotic side of your life alive by focusing on it as a priority.
Think about how you can integrate a variety of sexual adventures into your love life to increase passion and connection in your relationship. One way to discover new ideas is to find a book (like Getting the Sex You Want) that gives clear and easy exercises and ways you can easily communicate those desires.
The hardest thing for couples is to share their fantasies. It is important to have different kinds of sexual experiences. And yet it can be hard to push your edge to explore some of your secret fantasies, even with someone you love and trust.
In order to restore or create the passion in a partnership and keep it for the long term, you may need to try a variety of different things. In order to make that happen you can explore your fantasies and begin slowly to share them with each other in ways that are comfortable and erotic at the same time.
Dr Tammy Nelson is a sex and relationship expert, a psychotherapist, world wide speaker and author of the book “Getting the Sex You Want” and the upcoming “The New Monogamy” and can be found at www.drtammynelson.com
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