Change Your Sex Life to Change Your Relationship

An integral part of relationships, passion makes you feel loved, needed, and desired by your partner. It’s one of the rare characteristics that can add confidence and even a feeling of security while in a relationship. When one partner knows they’re wanted, they’re reminded of how much their significant other wants to be with them, both in and out of the bedroom.

It’s perfectly normal for passion to dwindle in a relationship over time. Some might even say that it’s okay, because intimacy replaces the passion the longer you’ve been together. But I think there’s no reason why you can’t have both. All it takes is a little work, a hint of creativity, and an open mind.

Mix it Up

If you’re having sex in the same area (most likely the bedroom) each time you’re intimate, it’s likely that you have already subconsciously associated the same location with the same kind of sex.

Bringing your bedroom play into other areas of the house, or grabbing a hotel for a night, can help you mix things up and spark your creativity. Even moving things from the bed to the couch can increase the playful factor.

For something really fun, get things wet in the shower or tub. There’s a reason Yahoo rated the bath/shower the #1 place to have sex besides your bedroom. A warm bath with candles and music is sure to put you and your partner in the mood. Also, a romantic sponge bath can quickly lead to some heavy petting, a great approach for longer foreplay.

Take a Class Together

Of course there are sex seminars and workshops you can take, but if you feel slightly uncomfortable in that particular atmosphere, there are other options. For instance, you can take a couples massage course together.

Melt: Massage for Couples offers live classes, video courses, and eBooks for couples who want to learn how to properly give their partner a massage. Rub your man down after a hard day or spend the weekend taking turns and melting away the stress. When things get slippery, who knows where your hands will end up.

If you plan on using the massage oils for lubricants, make sure that you read the labels carefully. Some massage oils are not certified to be used as both, and nothing will end your intimate moment quicker than a trip to the doctor. For a product that can serve as both, you’re better off consulting an adult retailer. According to Adam & Eve, there are a slew of different lubricants and oils out there made from different substances, including silicone and water-base. They note that the all-purpose lube comes highly recommend because of its “no-spill design and water-soluble formula.”

Get a Toy

Let me make this clear: Sex toys are no longer a taboo in the bedroom. HowStuffWorks reported that over a quarter of couples admitted to regularly using them during sexual intimacy with their partner.

If you or your partner are still hesitant to the idea, try starting with something small that won’t inhibit your movements or either of your experiences, such as a finger vibrator. Powerful and compact, this small bullet vibrator is ecstasy when used against your clitoris. Your partner can tease you with it while penetrating you without it taking away from their own experience. These vibrators are also great if you’re both in the mood for a quickie. It will help you reach orgasm faster, which takes some of the pressure off your partner to help you finish around the time that they do.

And the toys aren’t just for women. While you might turn him on when you’re using one, there are other items that you can integrate that will be just as pleasurable for him. You can try a penis ring, which will keep him harder longer, or you can experiment in some light bondage such as handcuffs (padded for comfort). If you’re feeling particularly seductive, blindfolds can add a bit of mystery.

There are endless ways that you can ignite the passion between you and your partner. You can use these suggestions or get creative and make up your own. Just make sure you set the DVR and clear your calendar for the weekend. Once you get started, you won’t be able to keep your hands off one another!