Sex and desire are deeply complicated and cannot easily be explained in just a few words. Sexual dysfunction is a concern for many, and the answer is not as simple as a little blue pill. The problem lies in the … Read More
In my latest YourTango blog, I answer some difficult questions like “Why did my partner cheat? Is it my fault? Did I deserve it or do something wrong? Was it me?” Sometimes people cheat to experience passion and aliveness – … Read More
Affairs can be painful and shocking and can cause betrayal and hurt. Yet some couples do recover. For some couples, divorce after an affair may not be the answer. A strong foundation of love and a desire to make it … Read More
Trust is not about wishing and hoping that a partner will or won’t behave in a certain way. Trust is about learning to establish trust in your own intuition. Trust is not about learning to trust your partner, they can … Read More
Erotic recovery is a fundamental part of healing after an affair. Your erotic life together is a very basic relationship need. After infidelity, going back to being erotically and intimately connected with your partner can be complicated. Erotic recovery encompasses … Read More
With all the talk of infidelity and inability to commit, it’s reassuring to see research from an evolutionary psychologist showing that men do want to commit to long-term, loving relationships. Andrew P. Smiler has found that young men and women … Read More
Gen. David Petraeus’s affair has brought infidelity to the spotlight and everyone is talking about it. It’s no surprise with the divorce and infidelity rate over 50%! My colleague and fellow teleclass presenter Janis Abrahms Spring was interviewed about rebuilding … Read More
I had a lot of fun on HuffPost Live last week – did you catch it? I was part of a panel with HuffPost Editor Ashley Reich, blogger Tracy Schorn, editor Mandy Stadtmiller, and founder of AffairRecovery.com Rick Reynolds talking … Read More
Gen. Petreaus’ affair brings up a good issue: monogamy is not so much a sexual dilemma as it is a moral dilemma. If we are at heart a moral person — how do we maintain our own morality and preserve our … Read More
There has been a lot of debate and controversy over whether monogamy is natural for humans. Evolutionary psychologists have theorized that sexual monogamy is counter-intuitive to propagating our genetic qualities and is therefore not a natural instinct for our species. … Read More