I have to say I was somewhat dismayed when I heard that Arnold and Maria were breaking up. And I was really bummed out to hear today that the reason for the split is Arnold’s affair with his maid – and the fact that he had a child with this woman – a child who is now ten years old.
It felt like Arnold was being an opportunist, didnt it? I mean why wait till he has stepped down from being Governor unless he was more invested in being the boss of California then in having a real relationship with anyone.
Perhaps it is easier to have relationships with your constituents then the women in your own household.
I know I sound bitter. I am. I think it was hearing his speech to the press, where he apologized to his wife and to his children and to the whole state of California – everyone on the West Coast. But he didnt send so much as a shout out to the mistress. Or his 10 year old love child.
How did they feel listening to that speech?
How come he could not find it in himself to publicly acknowledge their pain? Their humiliation?
What must it have been like for that maid/lover to listen to Arnold pledge his deep remorse to his wife? What was the “other woman” thinking?
And I think about that kid. Whether the boy or girl (we dont know yet) knew the truth or not, they certainly do now. And the maid’s husband thought this child was his all these years – he raised the Schwarzenneger offspring as his own. How is he feeling right now?
Is he wondering how a man with everything – a big position in government, a beautiful wife, great kids, money, fame……how is it he can take whatever he wants and more?
Maria is a strong advocate of women’s rights. She cannot be relishing this moment of total exposure. One can only hope that she stays strong.
As most of you know, I am not always so quick to choose sides. I normally feel empathy for both partners when this happens. And I can usually find good and sound reasons to clinically explain pretty much anything.
Perhaps this time I am just so tired of hearing news like this and NOT being surprised. I just feel sad.
I wish them all the best of luck and send special thoughts to all the children involved in this mess.
Dr Tammy Nelson
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