After an affair, the betrayal of trust and the deep hurt can be traumatic. Intrusive thoughts, pictures of your partner with someone else, and the anger toward the one who cheated can all ruin what once felt like a deep, connected partnership. Yet some couples seem to stay together after one partner cheats. How do they do it? And are they really happy?
Some couples who come to me for couple’s therapy see their experience with infidelity as a way to stimulate a positive discussion of what went wrong in the relationship before the cheating busted it wide open. In fact, after some deep insight work and a good amount of counseling, some couples even say,
“Maybe this affair was the best thing that could have happened to us.”
Read the of my latest blog on YourTango: Can an Affair Ever Be Positive?