Orgasms : Only for the lucky few?

Reposted from Talli Rosenbaum’s blog. Read the full post on her site here.

Shouldn’t all women be able to reach orgasm? And, why do some women reach orgasm through intercourse, and others don’t? These are legitimate questions which deserve evidence based, repectful answers. And it turns out that the answers vary, depending on who you may ask.

Here is one approach, fairly common amongs sex therapists:

“Female orgasm is nice, but if you arent having them, its OK. Not all women have orgasms. Not all have orgasms with a partner, though they can fly solo, and certainly not all women can have an orgasm with intercourse.”

Many quote the following statistics:

“Only 15% of women climax during intercourse”

“A third of women do not orgasm at all, a third can climax alone but not with a partner. Only one third of women can climax with a partner, and of those who can, only 40% do so during intercourse.”

But in the effort to “normalize” women’s experiences, are we not disempowering women to expect pleasure and satisfaction? While I agree that not all women may reach a climax during intercourse, should women be made to believe that only a lucky minority can hit the jackpot at all? Is sexual pleasure and, yes, orgasm, not a natural and expected outcome, at least some, or most of the time? The statistics are inconsistent and may reflect some political/socio/cultural agendas.

Read the rest on her blog…

Talli Rosenbaum is a AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and pelvic floor physiotherapist. She has joined me as co-host of multiple teleclasses regarding the physiology of sex. I am happy to share with you that we have a new teleclass coming up in May, watch for a new course on pelvic floor issues and rehabilitation for painful sex. Watch my Upcoming Events page for more details. Be sure to join the mailing list for special discounts, or join the Gold Discount Membership NOW!

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