If you want great sex, you have to have a great relationship. In a recent panel discussion I hosted for YourTango, Harville Hendrix, author of Getting The Love You Want, had some great advice for couples wanting to spice up their relationship.
One thing we know that does not make for a great relationship is anxiety. If you and your partner are into negativity and putting each other down, you might have sex but it’s not going to be great sex. It will be a compensation for the missing intimacy. The relationship has to be safe, because only when you’re safe can you drop your defenses. Only when you drop your defenses do you have access to your body and to the chemistry that comes with safety.
To re-inspire the passion in your relationship, get all of the negativity out, make it safe, and then spice it up with some creativity.
Watch the video on YourTango for more advice on how to stay connected, intimate, and having fun through all the stages of your relationship.