The bestselling book, “Getting the Love You Want” written by Harville Hendrix, teaches couples a powerful form of healing that Hendrix calls Imago Relationship Therapy. This theory says that we never choose our partner by accident. Our mate, for good … Read More
I am excited to announce two new videos available on gasm.org. The first video is devoted to how arousal and desire contribute to a woman experiencing orgasm. The second video is devoted to how focusing on your body and the moment … Read More
Is breaking up with someone or “unfollowing” them a way to show them how you really feel? Rihanna stopped following Chris Brown on Twitter. She’s mad at him because he said something mean about her in one of his songs. … Read More
I had the wonderful opportunity to participate as a special guest on Polyamory Weekly. Listen to the episode here. From the show notes: Dr. Tammy Nelson, therapist and author of a soon-to-be-released book on The New Monogamy, answers questions on the … Read More
Who is the Real Victim? The Secret Service and Legalizing Prostitution Recently a dozen Secret Service military employees of the US military had their security clearances suspended when they got caught with their pants down in a prostitution scandal while … Read More
Jerry Sandusky’s arraignment on 40 criminal counts, including indictment on dozens of counts of child sexual abuse has rocked the sports world and the Penn State community. Yet as shocking as the news out of Happy Valley is, the most … Read More
Your wedding is over; the planning, shopping, spending, arranging, and the big day are now behind you. It’s time to celebrate your new marriage, just the two of you. What can go wrong? Actually, a lot can and probably will. … Read More
I really like saying that. Yesterday in Amsterdam….and yes, I was in Amsterdam yesterday. It was a cold, rainy day. I was walking with my husband through the streets and we were looking for a warm restaraunt. And we were … Read More
By Dr Tammy Nelson In our current technological culture we use cyber connections to create all of our relationships. We use the internet to manage our social lives, meet new people, and develop both emotional and sexual partnerships. We use … Read More
Secrecy and privacy are different, and understanding these differences may be crucial in your relationship. For instance, what if you think that talking to a friend of the opposite sex on the phone or having lunch together is simply a part of your private life and doesn’t need to be shared with your spouse? You are not purposely keeping it from them, but what if they find out? Will they feel that you were keeping the information from them? Put yourself in their shoes for a moment; how do you think they will feel? Will they assume that you were hiding something from them? And if this misunderstanding comes between you, will you feel that every time you have lunch with a friend you will have to call your partner and tell them? Will you resent having to ask permission to be with your friends? Will your partner feel guilty and resent you for making them feel like your parent?
This is exactly what happened to Rob and Melissa. Melissa failed to share with Rob that she had a friend at work, Mike, with whom she enjoyed many long and talkative lunches with during the week. She was afraid that if she told Rob he would make more of it then there was. …