Dr. Tammy Nelson is a world-renowned relationship expert and the author of several books on relational change, including sexuality, infidelity and monogamy.   Her goal is to affect global relational change, one passionate connection at a time.

When You’re The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know

Many people have struggled with infidelity and its aftermath. They all have the same pain and joy, hopes and dreams as the rest of us.

Dr. Tammy says, “In this book, there are lots of stories from people who talked with me about their personal experiences, all of them cheaters.  Some found solace in an outside relationship, some regretted it. Many make it work and are still with both their inside and an outside partner.  Their honesty and courage helped me gain perspective and understand the truth about infidelity – that it can be a way to stay in a marriage and a way to get out.”

Dr. Tammy says, “In this book, there are lots of stories from people who talked with me about their personal experiences, all of them cheaters. Some found solace in an outside relationship, some regretted it. Many make it work and are still with both their inside and an outside partner. Their honesty and courage helped me gain perspective and understand the truth about infidelity – that it can be a way to stay in a marriage and a way to get out.”

Six Weeks of Erotic Dates & A Protocol for Erotic Recovery (eBook)

CoverWhen two busy people try and create and continue a connected erotic life, their day to day management of the busy-ness of their work and their family can get in the way. We have priorities that we place in front of our intimate life. And yet when our sex life gets pushed to the bottom of the list, we start to feel like our relationship is unimportant and therefore we are no longer important. This is when the fun and the intimacy start to erode.

Within six weeks, if you follow the simple plan in Six Weeks of Erotic Dates & A Protocol for Erotic Recovery, you can reconnect with your partner and begin the healing process. The weeks are laid out in a way that will take you slowly from gentle touch that is more sensual than sexual, to get you each used to approaching each other and to add some anticipation to the night. As each week progresses, you will find that the exercises take you into more intimate and erotic places, and the sexual energy will increase between you.

These six weeks of erotic dates will help you begin again, start fresh and build anew. You deserve it.

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The New Monogamy

NewMonogamy-F.inddEveryone has their own concept of what “monogamy” means—and most people assume their partners and spouses are on the same page. Couples may assume that they are monogamous, but never discuss exactly what the monogamy agreement means to them. What happens when this implicit agreement is broken? After infidelity, relationships can become strained as both partners lose trust and faith in each other. The New Monogamy offers a way out of these difficulties for couples struggling to stay together after infidelity. Couples make these implicit assumptions and agreements explicit so that each partner knows exactly what is expected of them in the future and what they can expect from their partner.

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Getting the Sex You Want

“The best guide for helping couples enhance their sexual pleasure I have ever seen…” Harville Hendrix, PhD

A proven couples counseling method applied to sex for the very first time.

Communication problems can erode a relationship in and out of the bedroom. This guide takes a proven communication method, which has been used to counsel millions of couples, and applies it to sex for the very first time. The Imago Relationship Therapy, which was pioneered by Harville Hendrix in the national bestseller and self-help classic Getting the Love You Want, shows readers how to understand and build trust with their partners through a unique form of dialogue.

Getting the Sex You Want teaches readers how to build sexual communication skills quickly and connect with their partner in a new way. Readers learn exercises that enable them to communicate their sexual needs and desires, get past old issues, and revive passion in their relationship.

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Loving and Lasting: How to Stay Tuned in and Turned On in Your Marriage

loving and lastingEdited by Ande Lyons, with a chapter written by Dr. Tammy Nelson and many more relationship experts

Do you want a more meaningful and fulfilling marriage—one where you feel deeply connected emotionally, spiritually, and physically? Seriously, do you?

Do you want to reignite the passion, eroticism, and romance you and your sweetheart shared when you met?

In Loving and Lasting you’ll find the best advice from 20 of my favorite love experts. So get that fire extinguisher ready—these experts are ready to share it all—what really works to quickly get you tuned in and turned on in your marriage!

You’ll learn how to:

  • Rediscover intimacy, sexual excitement, and physical pleasure
  • Fall in love again with your spouse
  • Communicate better and release negativity
  • Find out what really turns you on—and excites your spouse
  • Recover from past infidelities
  • Create an erotic, romantic relationship

Ready for a more vibrant, connected, and sexually satisfying marriage? Then start reading!  Order on Amazon

Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love

pinpby Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, with the forward written by Dr. Tammy Nelson

Most of us long for intimate relationships, and though texting and emailing may keep us superficially connected, it ultimately cannot create the kind of intimacy necessary to sustain a deep, fulfilling, and lasting partnership. With the divorce rate reaching a staggering 50 percent in 2013 and the breakup rate among unmarried long-term couples even higher, it appears that the more we tweet, the more disconnected we become. So many of us believe that new is better, hotter, and more intense, but love at first sight isn’t really love, it’s chemistry. Developing the connections and intimacy that everyone craves takes time and skill.

In Partners in Passion, Michaels and Johnson provide readers with a fun, step-by-step guide to discovering true, loving, and romantically sexual relationships that will last for decades. Comprehensive and inclusive, Partners in Passion is original and provocative, drawing on a variety of sources: cutting-edge science, psychology, the authors’ background in tantra, and personal experiences as teachers and as a couple. Partners in Passion invites couples to design their relationships and to choose consciously, and is replete with how-to suggestions and exercises, including interviews with couples from diverse backgrounds, relationship styles, and orientations who are enjoying erotically vibrant partnerships.

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Momentum: Making Waves in Sexuality, Feminism, & Relationships

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America is obsessed with sex. But at the same time that sex is used to sell everything from hamburgers to cars, our Puritanical roots create dizzying dichotomies: abstinence campaigns and virginity balls crop up while teens have anal sex to preserve their “purity;” conservatives call for more restrictions on abortion yet don’t want the sex education taught that might prevent some pregnancies; some states approve gay marriage and the Million Moms calls for the Archie comic book featuring a gay wedding to be banned from Toys R Us; Slutwalks spring up in opposition to the prevalent rape culture after a policeman blames a woman’s rape on what she was wearing; and the list goes on and on.

MOMENTUM arose out of our national obsession with sexuality but as a counterpoint to the tired rhetoric we’re used to hearing. This cutting-edge anthology, with a foreword by former U.S. Surgeon General, Dr. Joycelyn Elders, features selected essays by our 2012 presenters and, like the conference itself, covers a wide range of sexuality. MOMENTUM: Making Waves in Sexuality, Feminism and Relationships aims to share new and fresh perspectives in sexuality by offering essays such as Culture Warriors vs.Sex for Pleasure: Changing the Sexual Narrative by Lara Riscol, Sex in America by Esther Perel, Talking Out Loud About Senior Sex by Joan Price, Feminist Porn as Cultural Critique (And Why It’s Necessary to Critique the Culture’s Critique of Porn) by Dr. Carol Queen, Queer is a Verb by Charlie Glickman, Is Infidelity The New Monogamy? by Dr. Tammy Nelson, Combating the Silencing of Abuse within the Kink & Sex-Positive Communities by Nadia West, Why the Sex Positive Movement is Bad for Sex Workers’ Rights by Audacia Ray, and many more.

This anthology will allow those who couldn’t be at the conference to participate in some of the revolutionary ideas about sex and sexuality that came about as a result of MOMENTUM and attendees will be able to read about sessions they may have missed, as well as have a go-to guide of their favorite sessions.

What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Teens with Anorexia, Bulimia, and other Eating Disorders

Screen shot 2012-04-24 at 11.52.46 PMIn a country where a woman over a size four rarely makes it onto the cover of a magazine or onto our TV screens, it’s not surprising that eating disorders are so prevalent in girls. Whether it’s anorexia, bulimia, or bingeing, eating disorders are destructive and potentially deadly. What’s Eating You? helps teens develop the self-esteem and self-acceptance that so often eludes girls with eating disorders. It teaches them how to overcome perfectionism, understand the role that family patterns may play in their eating disorder, and change negative self-talk about their body. As important, What’s Eating You? shows teens that happiness comes in many sizes.

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Tammy Nelson PhD is a sex and relationship expert, an international speaker, an author and a licensed psychotherapist committed to global relational change. With almost 30 years experience, she is a Board Certified Sexologist, a Certified Sex Therapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and a Certified Imago Relationship therapist.

Tammy Nelson, PhD is author of Getting the Sex You Want; Shed Your Inhibitions and Reach New Heights of Passion Together (2008) What’s Eating You? A Workbook for Anorexia and Bulimia (2004) and The New Monogamy; Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (January 2013), and the forward to Partners in Passion by Michaels and Johnson (2013) and a chapter in Loving and Lasting; How to Stay Tuned in and Turned on in Your Marriage edited by Lyons (2013) and author of Six Weeks to Desire eBook (2013). Her newest book Sex and Lies; The Naked TherapistTM is currently under negotiation.

She has been a featured expert in New York Times, Washington Post, Self, Glamour Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Redbook, MSNBC, Healthy Life Magazine, Shape, Men’s Health, Woman’s Day, Women’s Health, The Sun, and a source in Time Magazine. She writes for the Psychotherapy Networker and Huffington Post, YourTango, ThirdAge, GoodCleanLove, and can be followed on her blog.

Tammy speaks internationally and trains professionals and couples around the committed, renewable monogamy and sustainable and sexy relationships. She is a premier marketer and creates publicity campaigns that reach audiences in the hundreds of thousands, both for clinical and consumer audiences. She is committed to radical global relational change and available at www.drtammynelson.com